Discover how to find joy and acceptance in your body You find yourself looking in the mirror, picking apart each section of the body that you wish were different: smaller, less bumpy, thinner, less flabby. You rarely see what you like; only attack what you don’t. You’re tired of this routine. You wish you could […]
Tag Archives: Eating Disorders
Binge Eating, Body Image, Dieting, Food Is Not The Enemy
What You an Mike Jeffries, CEO of A&F, Have in Common
13
May
May
By now you may have heard about the insulting words said by CEO, Mike Jeffries of Abercrombie and Fitch. If not, you’ll find the story here. Or, if you prefer not to subject yourself to the whole story, I’ll provide you with a quote to give you a taste of what you’re missing (not much, […]
05
May
May
You may recall my recent survey in which I requested your help. I asked if you wanted a program to help you stop binge eating. THANK YOU to all who responded!!! It was immensely valuable and I am hard at work creating the program and adding all the elements you requested! In one survey response, […]
29
Mar
Mar
Being caught in this binge purge cycle to any degree will not help you have a good relationship with food. When you purge, the binge will always return. When you binge, the purge will always return. You can’t have one without the other. What they lead to and remind you of is how much you […]
15
Mar
Mar
I used to be a lone business owner. For years, I worked on my business all by myself. This is what I was taught after all. I was the only one I could count on; I had to do it alone. Finally, one day I realized that I didn’t want to be alone in it […]
09
Mar
Mar
While in supervision with a supervisee who is working toward licensure, I was giving him feedback on his therapy interventions. It was a session in which he received a lot of direct feedback from me. He always approaches his work and our sessions with openness and an eagerness to learn but that doesn’t mean it’s […]
Binge Eating, Body Shame, Dieting, Family, Food Is Not The Enemy
Look fantastic on the outside, feel beautiful on the inside; no weight loss required
24
Oct
Oct
Pants, dresses, shorts, skirts, t-shirts, blouses, bras, lingerie, socks, tights, leggings… oh my! Silk, linen, wool, cashmere, cotton, denim, leather… exquisite! Patterns, prints, flowers, solids, sunny colors, warm colors, dark colors, all the colors of the rainbow and more…fun! Unlike women a hundred years ago, we have tons of garment options in loads of combinations! […]
10
Sep
Sep
“I just want to be happy!” Does this sound familiar? I hear these words all the time from my clients and from, well, everyone. You just want to be happy. Right? I do too. Even Thomas Jefferson and the other writers of the Declaration of Independence recognized the importance of the pursuit of happiness. So […]
28
Aug
Aug
The Dieting Cycle (Binge/Purge Cycle) When you are in the dieting cycle, you begin by restricting in a variety of ways: the diet starts, you don’t eat what you really want, you eat less than you want or need, you feel bad about what you eat, and/or you starve yourself. Perhaps you eventually eat the […]
09
Jul
Jul
I used to be a lone business owner. For years, I worked on my business all by myself. This is what I was taught after all. I was the only one I could count on; I had to do it alone. Finally, one day I realized that I didn’t want to be alone in it […]
25
Mar
Mar
One of my clients is struggling at the gym. She isn’t struggling to go to the gym. She isn’t struggling to complete her workouts. What she is struggling with are the trainers at the gym. They are insisting that she be weighed and measured, despite her protests! She doesn’t want to be measured and weighed. […]
10
Jan
Jan
The turn of the calendar into a New Year occurs again. I admit it; January is my favorite month of the year. Not because it’s a time to renew my resolution and finally get the body I have always wanted. Not because I get to start over once again with this-diet-will-work- this-time resolution. Not because […]
07
Dec
Dec
Do you ever feel like a child? Do you ever want to just throw yourself on the floor and kick and scream? Do you ever want to start bawling when someone hurts you? Do you ever want to yell “go away!” in your most child like voice? If you answered yes to any of these […]
06
Nov
Nov
It’s Possible and It Works A few weeks ago, I hosted a free teleseminar about the most important step to changing your relationship with food. If you haven’t already, listen to the teleseminar recording by clicking here. This teleseminar addressed the step of eating whatever you want and letting go of the concept that food […]
Binge Eating, Body Image, Dieting, Food Is Not The Enemy
Self Criticism: The Very Loud Killer of Souls, Part 2
07
Oct
Oct
Self Criticism: The Very Loud Killer of Souls, Part 2 A few weeks ago I wrote about your critical voice. I talked about how it is probably the most harmful little voice you have in your head. Yup, it’s true. Despite what you have been told, being critical and hard on yourself does not motivate […]
07
Sep
Sep
If I had a magic therapy wand I would wave it around and magically make one very loud killer disappear from each person: Self Criticism! Self criticism: aka self judgment, aka the critical voice, aka beating yourself up. Each of these is deadly and has no place in your life. Being critical of yourself is […]
27
Jul
Jul
In 1988 Bobby McFerrin released a song called “Don’t Worry, Be Happy.” Even now as I recall that song for this article, I have the desire to reach as fast as possible to change the radio station in my head! I hated that song! Not only did I think it was super boring but […]
Binge Eating, Blog, Body Image, Food Is Not The Enemy
The #1 Secret to Ending Eating Disorder Behaviors
10
Jul
Jul
Being caught in this binge purge cycle to any degree will not help you have a good relationship with food. When you purge, the binge will always return. When you binge, the purge will always return. You can’t have one without the other. What they lead to and remind you of is how much you […]
16
Jun
Jun
If You are Going to Eat It, You May as Well Taste It If you are a compulsive overeater, you may tend to shovel food down without even tasting it. Have you ever eaten an entire meal and still felt hungry afterwards? This is because you didn’t eat what you really wanted or didn’t take […]
Body Shame, Dieting, Family, Food Is Not The Enemy
Critically Think Your Way to Feeling Good about Yourself
15
Jun
Jun
An acquaintance of mine, who knows what I do for a living and partially understands it, likes to tell me what he knows about the study of weight, food, etc. It is his way of bonding with me and supporting me. I appreciate it. Yet because he only partially understands, I often tense a little […]
28
May
May
What do these have to do with eating disorders? “In this world nothing is certain but death and taxes.” -Benjamin Franklin I believe in living a healthy life. I believe in eating healthy and exercising for health. I also believe in emotional health and I believe emotional health is as important (if not more so) […]
06
May
May
We all want to fit in. It is natural and normal. It is human. We need each other because we are social beings. Even if you are shy or have social anxiety, you need a tribe of people – a place you fit in. In a society where thin is in and any other body […]
Body Image, Body Shame, Family, Food For Thought, Food Is Not The Enemy
There are Steps to Take Toward Recovery
07
Apr
Apr
Recovery from an eating disorder (or disordered eating, if you prefer) is no simple task. You have been dealing with or even better, using it as a way to cope for a very long time. It is attached to you, stuck on you, and you are stuck on it. It is like a best friend […]
07
Apr
Apr
Food is fuel for your body. It gives you the energy you need to go through your day, to work, to play, to study, to parent, to enjoy life. You expend energy while you do those things and food helps you replace the energy so you can keep going. Without enough food, you get tired, […]