Category Archives: Body Image

Do You Suffer from Exercise Resistance?

You know you’re supposed to exercise. You know it’s good for you. You know you should like it and want to do it. But…You. Don’t. Seem. To. Be. Able. To. Get. Up. And. Go! You may be suffering from the condition of Exercise Resistance! You’ve likely heard about compulsive (or addictive) exercising. You may wish you were […]

Does Food Addiction Really Exist

People love to make food the enemy. They blame food for giving them a big butt, tummy and thighs. They blame food for breaking up marriages and causing problems in relationships. They blame food for making them undesirable, unlovable and unhealthy. They even blame food for causing them to be out of control. But… food […]

Food Rules

The fashion world gives us lots of rules for dressing. They tell us what to wear and how we’re supposed to look in it. Nutrition is also fashionable. They tell us what to eat and how it’s supposed to be “good” for us. Of course, no one agrees about what really is nutritious! Everyone has […]

Food is Not the Enemy, Shame is

Shame. Likely the emotion you hate to feel the most. It gets pushed down and is often felt at the core of your struggles. Shame about food. Shame about your body. Shame about who you are. It’s painful. No doubt about it. And it’s also okay to feel shame. There are two types of shame. […]

If You’re going to Eat it, You may as well Taste it

Mmmm, pizza! You love pizza and you really want some. “NO! You can’t have pizza,” you angrily tell yourself. “Pizza is BAD for me!” So you go to the fridge and find a bag of carrots. Sitting in front of the TV, you eat your carrots. They aren’t great, but they are “good for me” […]

Giving Up Dieting is Not Giving Up

Happy New Year! 2014 Here We Come! I find the beginning of the New Year to be an exciting time (once I get over the fact that another year has passed). I love the idea of intentions and yearly themes. Certainly not as a way to promise something and then feel like a failure in […]

I admit it, I’m a Grinch this time of year

I was recently sitting in a restaurant, enjoying the conversation and the person I was with when suddenly my attention tuned into the happy, joyful Christmas music blaring above. “I don’t like Christmas music!” I belted out. Whenever I hear it, I cringe. I tense up. I may even snarl. I can’t help it. I […]

What You an Mike Jeffries, CEO of A&F, Have in Common

By now you may have heard about the insulting words said by CEO, Mike Jeffries of Abercrombie and Fitch. If not, you’ll find the story here. Or, if you prefer not to subject yourself to the whole story, I’ll provide you with a quote to give you a taste of what you’re missing (not much, […]

More of Me to Love on the Inside

I used to be a lone business owner. For years, I worked on my business all by myself. This is what I was taught after all. I was the only one I could count on; I had to do it alone. Finally, one day I realized that I didn’t want to be alone in it […]

Do You Just Want to Be Happy?

“I just want to be happy!” Does this sound familiar? I hear these words all the time from my clients and from, well, everyone. You just want to be happy. Right? I do too. Even Thomas Jefferson and the other writers of the Declaration of Independence recognized the importance of the pursuit of happiness. So […]

Revolutions Not Resolutions

The turn of the calendar into a New Year occurs again. I admit it; January is my favorite month of the year. Not because it’s a time to renew my resolution and finally get the body I have always wanted. Not because I get to start over once again with this-diet-will-work- this-time resolution. Not because […]

The Holidays from your Inner Child’s Perspective

Do you ever feel like a child? Do you ever want to just throw yourself on the floor and kick and scream? Do you ever want to start bawling when someone hurts you? Do you ever want to yell “go away!” in your most child like voice? If you answered yes to any of these […]

Self Criticism: The Very Loud Killer of Souls, Part 2

Self Criticism: The Very Loud Killer of Souls, Part 2 A few weeks ago I wrote about your critical voice. I talked about how it is probably the most harmful little voice you have in your head. Yup, it’s true. Despite what you have been told, being critical and hard on yourself does not motivate […]

Self Criticism: The Very Loud Killer of Human Souls

If I had a magic therapy wand I would wave it around and magically make one very loud killer disappear from each person: Self Criticism! Self criticism: aka self judgment, aka the critical voice, aka beating yourself up. Each of these is deadly and has no place in your life. Being critical of yourself is […]

Don’t Worry, Be Happy Isn’t So Simple

  In 1988 Bobby McFerrin released a song called “Don’t Worry, Be Happy.” Even now as I recall that song for this article, I have the desire to reach as fast as possible to change the radio station in my head! I hated that song! Not only did I think it was super boring but […]

The #1 Secret to Ending Eating Disorder Behaviors

Being caught in this binge purge cycle to any degree will not help you have a good relationship with food. When you purge, the binge will always return. When you binge, the purge will always return. You can’t have one without the other. What they lead to and remind you of is how much you […]

Death and Taxes and Eating Disorders

What do these have to do with eating disorders? “In this world nothing is certain but death and taxes.” -Benjamin Franklin I believe in living a healthy life. I believe in eating healthy and exercising for health. I also believe in emotional health and I believe emotional health is as important (if not more so) […]

Find a Community of Support

We all want to fit in. It is natural and normal. It is human. We need each other because we are social beings. Even if you are shy or have social anxiety, you need a tribe of people – a place you fit in. In a society where thin is in and any other body […]

There are Steps to Take Toward Recovery

Recovery from an eating disorder (or disordered eating, if you prefer) is no simple task. You have been dealing with or even better, using it as a way to cope for a very long time. It is attached to you, stuck on you, and you are stuck on it. It is like a best friend […]

Is Denial Your Friend and Food Your Enemy?

Article by Michelle Drake, mental health therapist Do you ever wonder if you have ever really felt your emotions for the duration they needed to truly be felt? Do you find yourself stuffing bad feelings down so you can keep a smile on your face and pretend to move on just fine through life? If […]

You Didn’t Fail the Diet, the Diet Failed You

The New Year has passed, your resolution to lose weight has run its course once again. You did your best to diet, perhaps you lost some weight, but you couldn’t keep it up. Eventually, you ate those forbidden foods and couldn’t stop. Once again, you ate everything you shouldn’t have and you are starting to […]

The Number on the Scale is Just a Number

The number on the scale is not who you are! Maybe that should be obvious, but is it? Our culture is so messed up about weight. We are told that unless you are in the “normal” range on the BMI scale, you are unhealthy. We are judged by our weight, there is no doubt about […]

How to Make Your Eating Disorder Obsolete

Feel Your Feelings In June’s Newsletter “Throwing Up Your Feelings” I talked about various ways of coping with binging using purging behaviors. (click on the newsletter title to read more). Being caught in this binge purge cycle to any degree will not help you have a good relationship with food. When you purge, the binge […]

Your Eating Disorder Wants to Tell You Something

Your Eating Disorder Voice is communicating something. Your Healthy Voice is communicating something. Often, these “Voices” are competing with each other, but what are they really trying to say? I often talk to clients about the “Eating Disorder Voice” and the “Healthy Voice.” Part of the treatment for an eating disorder is to make the […]

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